I was talking to a friend the other day about feeling isolated because of feeling inadequate. Isn't that how most of us feel or have felt?
I had the privilege of going to life counseling early this summer and I learned so much while I was there. Each person has three so called "muscles," your parent, adult, and child. The parent is what tells you "should, could, would, have to, got to, need too..etc as well as telling you what truth is. The adult is able to logically reason through things using facts and data. The child is the part of you that enjoys life, who has fun, who plays, and who has been believing the lies you have been told you entire life. You grew up with parents who at one point in time determined if you were going to live or not. They fed you, clothed you, educated you, fed you spiritually or not etc. Most if not all of us got a message from them (Let me add that they probably DID NOT want you to feel the way that you feel, but we are flawed and this stuff happens)...and what that message is, is different from person to person. Some were told either out right or subconsciously that they weren't good enough, or were always in the way or they couldn't mess up or everything depends on them or they are this certain way and cant change.... ALL DETRIMENTAL!
When we believe these lies we begin to let our child rule our life on how we are feeling, not on what is true. This is the viscous cycle that tells us we are inadequate and because we feel this way we tend to isolate ourselves and we feel even more alone and unseen by anyone around us.
We all want to be seen and known. It occurred to me that this is how GOD created us to be: Seen and Known completely by him. I think this is why God gives each of us a handful of people who really see us and know us. It is his taste of heaven. God's gift to us on earth. He wants to give up a hope for the future so he gives us a taste of what it is life to been seen, baggage and all, and loved for exactly who we are.
So I want to encourage all of us to reject the FEELING that we are all alone and not worth being seen. It is a LIE and not truth. Taste the hope of heaven. The Bible tells us, "taste and see that the Lord is good." He has not left us here alone on earth!
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